Selfless Service: How Can I Help You?

This time of year is filled with delicious meals surrounded by family and friends, decorations and lights, and gift giving. Many of us get wrapped up in the cycle of wanting, giving, and expectations of happiness. I have felt this cycle take over in years past and have found, at the end of the holiday season, feelings of disappointment and exhaustion, almost certainly questioning, ‘Is this what holidays are all about?’.

I was reminded of this cycle over the Thanksgiving holiday as I watched football and saw innumerable amounts of advertisements reminding me of the gifts I need to buy, all the ‘stuff’ I want for myself, and how the ‘Sale ends in 17 hours!’. Although I wanted to give into these ads, grabbing my wallet and heading to the store, I remembered what the holidays are centered around, gratitude and selfless service. ‘Where do these fit into the usual holiday cycle?’ I pondered.

That evening I spoke to a friend who had taken the morning of Thanksgiving Day to serve food at her local homeless shelter. This served as an answer to my question. Giving is part of the cycle; giving without expectations of receiving. Because of her selfless service, I was reminded of a purpose greater than soothing the expectations of myself and others by giving and receiving gifts in return. The answer was simple, help others.

Helping others can take on many forms. Ram Dass, author of Be Here Now explains ‘Helping out is not some special skill. It is not the domain of rare individuals. It is not confined to a single part of our lives. We simply heed the call of that natural impulse within and follow it where it leads us’.

A coworker helped me understand this lesson at a deeper level recently. To complete the 200 hour yoga certification I needed to do an Asana Check-off, demonstrating knowledge of 39 foundational yoga poses. To do this, photographs needed to be taken of myself in each pose. Being a member of the digital/ selfie generation, I did not have the equipment needed to take quality photographs, but a coworker had the equipment and offered his Saturday afternoon to aid me in completing the training. No payment necessary. I was shocked. I needed help, he had the resources to help, and donated his time and equipment, without asking for anything in return. As Ram Dass puts it, ‘Helping is not some special skill’, my coworker already had the special skill of taking photographs, but to aid me by donating his time and equipment, he heeded the call to help and went with it.

My initial thought was, ‘What can I do to repay this person?’. His action sparked an idea. ‘I don’t want to pay him back,’ I thought, ‘Instead of leaving it as a transaction between two people, I want to pay it forward’. Finally, I understood what my coworker had known prior to my realization. To selflessly serve means to help someone out of compassion, not personal benefit.

‘What can I do to help others?’, I asked myself. I thought of my friend who helped feed the homeless on Thanksgiving Day and of my amazing sister who helped break the cycle of abuse and addiction by fostering a child. In the small town, where I live, a homeless shelter does not exist. Fostering a child is something I don’t think I, nor my husband, is ready for. I realized, what I do as selfless service may look different than the way others selflessly serve. ‘I could teach free yoga classes to those in my community!’, I had found the answer.

You may be asking yourself, ‘What can I do to selflessly serve my community?’. There are many ways in which to answer this question.

  • What do you like to do, which others like to do? Give this freely or create a way for others to join in a offer it at a discounted rate
  • What is already being done in your community which you feel you could assist with? Bake sales, fundraisers, food banks, or shelters
  • If you have the financial means to donate, find charities which benefit causes which would positively affect those in your community

Even something as simple as allowing pedestrians to cross the street, being patient and friendly in line at the grocery store, or picking up trash as you walk down the street are ways to selflessly serve your community.

The beautiful fact is we all can serve in different ways, finding your unique way to serve is part of the fun. I hope you enjoy this holiday season by giving into giving, and selflessly serving those in your community, because that is truly what the holidays are all about.


Author: Caitlin Hegwood

I create healthy recipes, share natural self-care tips, provide mindfulness practices, offer private and group yoga classes, and health and wellness coaching to my amazing community of wellness seekers. I hope you'll join me on this journey to wellness by subscribing below!

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